EVE

What makes us afraid of strong women? Why do we feel like these women are somehow above us, that they have the right to speak to us in a direct, curt manner?

Are they actually speaking to us in this way though or is this purely our perception of the situation?

For you, who is that woman that you are "afraid" of, the one who makes you feel unworthy, not good enough, second best? Is this your Mum, best friend, Sister, colleague or boss? Shouldn't we as women be uplifting, supporting, championing and empowering each other?

In a world where equal rights are an everyday topic, why can we as the female collective still not get this right and stick together?

For those of us who are in some ways "afraid" of women we deem to be more successful, powerful, stronger than us, surely this highlights a deeper rooted personal lack of confidence or issue within us- but where does this stem from?

For those strong, confident (seemingly), overly direct, cold and in basic terms "bitchy" women, what deep rooted underlying cause has made them this way, the need to basically repel other women?

Could this be the same exact cause, reason and effect? Somewhere, someone in our inherent timelines has instilled this deep rooted cause within us. If you take the time to really think about it, you all have your "Eve" no matter what side of the coin you are on here. Should it therefore follow that if we can address and come to terms with our "Eve", we could solve the problem? Or has our "Eve" had a domino effect on the rest of our lives and in turn on all our female to female relationships? I think that if we are honest the majority of us would state the latter.

So just how can we break the chain? What do we need to do to affect a change in our own lives, whilst also affecting the lives of other women around us? We should NEVER at any point feel inferior to anybody let alone another female!

This for me, relates back to the "why" theory. Good motivations and solutions often come from identifying your "why", however in this case it is more likely our "who". Who is that one female, the catalyst to your inferiority complex or integrated repellant of women. Who is "Eve?"

Once you identify your "who", you need to address your "why". Why is it that they were your "Eve?" Take the time to note down what it was about them, what did they say to you, did they do something to you, how did they make you feel? Given that this situation is likely to have occurred in the past, look back on this now and address each point individually, it is highly likely that the thing they did, said, how they made you feel would not have the same effect on you today. It is also highly likely that this is something that we are harbouring, we really need to let this s**t go!

Counteract how they made you feel, comments that they made, with your response. Tell them how they made you feel and tell them who you are now as a person, what you have achieved, in spite of this. Show them that their sentiments are hollow and their actions void!

Do this for your "Eve" but also for any concurrent females that have also affected your life in this way. You will soon see that you need to "do you", be proud of you, speak your words, find and use your voice. We are not here to be the same person or the person somebody else wants us to be. We are individual and whilst there may be people out there afraid to stand out, afraid to be unaccepted, you can and must embrace yourself as an individual!

When you do, you will soon see that this battle starts with you! Conquer your "Eves" individually in order to collectively change your mindset and STOP being afraid of strong, confident women......

Instead, BE ONE!!